Relationship Fridays

 Dealing with Heartbreaks

    Someone once told me that when one is in love, it’s like they throw their mind out of the window.That’s the time you feel like the world suddenly revolves around you, and that life would be meaningless without love. Today I chose a topic that school or family may not often address and its starts with the letter B……….yes it’s how we deal with breakups. I’m yet to know who suffers more in the case of heartbreak, the man or the woman but one thing I know for sure is that moving on is never that easy. A mixture of anger, low self-esteem, confusion and hate come in all together during this rough time. Just the other day a fourth year engineering student killed himself because of being dumped and I have also heard of many cases of people who take away their lives because of breakups. A heartbreak  often results into depression but some people choose the wrong way to handle it. The good news it takes lesser time to move on than it took you to fall in love with your partner.

     The words you’ll meet someone better, it’s not the end of the world, move on or I understand what you are going through never seem to make sense at that particular time. That’s because you feel as if no one else has ever experienced the same pain you are going through. There are different things you can do to lessen the pain. Avoid suffering in silence;they say a problem half shared is half solved. Get a friend or family member whom you trust so much and let them know what’s happening to you. That is a healing process in itself.Avoid staying alone in the house. This is the best time to bond with long lost pals, go out party have fun and create new memories.This,however, does not mean you rush into another romantic relationship just for you to feel secure as you might end up nursing two heartbreaks. Get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex as hard as it may be as this becomes real to you,that its actually over. Calling and insulting your ex might sound very good at the beginning but it doesn’t solve anything and you might say some very hurtful words which might torment you for the rest of your life.

    Heartbreaks are normal and they make you evaluate yourself and become a stronger person. Remember, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.