Relationship Fridays

 
With Benefits.

People engage in relationships for different reasons. They say history repeats itself but I’m not really sure whether this kind of relationship was present in the past. How do you get to be sexually attracted to someone and not be emotionally attached or in other words as people put it, have no strings attached? Well, the term friend with benefits (FWB) is not new to us. The FWB is more popular among us in Kenya than we think especially among the young people. There is no saying I love you, no going for dates, no pet names, but the only mutual agreement is based on bedroom matters. This is where the difference between love and sex comes in. FWB has to strictly involve a friend and not a stranger and it’s very different from a one night stand.

Most people who engage in that relationship have either undergone a breakup, are too busy to be committed since they are always on the move, have a spouse elsewhere or simply just want to have fun and explore. Many of those I have encountered also suggest it is less stressful, easy to walk in and out of, easy to maintain and satisfy their sexual desires without considering the emotions of the other party.

As much as the idea sounds simple it, however, has its own downfall since the friendship you once had with the person fades away, the respect you once had for each other is lost, one might actually end up falling for the other without the other noticing resulting to heartbreak, jealousy might arise whenever he or she starts getting close to a member of the opposite sex. In addition, it emotionally destroys you as a human being. The one likely to suffer is the woman as she focuses more on the friendship while the male on the benefits.

Just in case you want to try out the friends with benefits thing, remember that it is fun in the beginning but trouble comes along the way. It only benefits those who NEVER dream of having kids or getting married because it may ruin your chances of finding that one perfect long-time partner.