Relationship Fridays

A relationships worst enemy

We are not able to choose our parents, siblings or cousins but have the freedom to choose our romantic companion or should I say soul mate. Some last a lifetime, others a few years or just days due to common hitches experienced in relationships and here is what you should avoid doing. Lying is a disease which slowly becomes deadly. People lie in relationships mostly to avoid hurting the other party. Yes, small lies won’t hurt you but small lies accumulate into bigger lies. This in turn affects the trust one has towards the partner. Trust is something which is earned and takes time to develop and when its broken, insecurity arises.

Sometimes having things in common with your spouse can be really exciting as this allows people to bond more. Having different interests with your partner is also accepted as opposed to having same likes which can get boring with time. Jealousy can sometimes crop up in relationships especially if both parties are in the same age bracket or pursuing the same kind of profession and one is quickly rising to success. The jealousy leads to a competitive kind of relationship which is unhealthy.

Infidelity is a major cause of breakups. It is mostly aimed at satisfying sexual curiosity with a different partner. It is not advisable as many STD’s are promoted by having multiple sexual partners. Unfaithfulness is an act of selfishness or greediness and should be condemned. There are different reasons why people opt to be unfaithful but it can be prevented through self-discipline and commitment. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

All these relationship enemies can be defeated by not rushing into relationships for the wrong reasons, spending quality time with your partner and good communication.